First and foremost, monitor your thinking.
We begin with the technique: “Watch Your Words!”
Start with spoken words — they’re easier to control than thoughts.
First step: stop complaining about life.
When you feel the urge to complain — bite your tongue. (In conversation.)
Better yet, say: “Everything is going great.”
Then, as you reflect, find the positives in the situation.
Learn to seek out the positives in any circumstance and train yourself to focus on them.
You must realize: there are always positives, no matter the situation.
Beyond that, understand this: thoughts are material.
A spoken thought is twice as material — like a seal stamped onto a document.
Humans possess a remarkable skill of materializing their thoughts,
but not everyone knows it — although many quite successfully materialize their fears and doubts.
The second step: work with your fears.
There are many techniques for this.
Of all of them, those that use laughter are still the best I know.
(Such as Simoron, Laughter Therapy, and others.)
Once you master holding your tongue when tempted to complain,
then it’s time to start controlling your thoughts.
If you think, “Ah, how ugly I am!” —
immediately replace it with a powerful opposing thought,
one you can invest just as much energy into as you did the negative.
And on the very same subject.
For example:
You can’t say, “Ah, how ugly I am” — and then deflect with, “But at least I’m smart.”
You must immediately say to yourself: “I am beautiful.”
Even if you don’t believe it — say it until you do.
And if you struggle to believe it,
learn to see the situation through new eyes.
One more rule:
You must not constantly scold yourself.
You must not curse your life —
life that always offers an abundance of opportunities.
You must not curse your loved ones —
because even if they do not love you in the way you expect,
it does not mean they do not love you with all their heart.
This I always remember.
And I also remember:
“Everything always happens exactly as it should — in the best possible way.”
I have proven this to myself time and again.