Posts in Thoughts

The production of the happiness hormone is provoked by what’s called mindset – thoughts, in simple terms. That is, happiness is born in relation. This is a priori. What kind of relation is needed to be happy and for this happiness hormone to be produced?

Love is not a feeling. It’s not something we experience as "beautiful yearning" or whatever else—hormonal surges? Desire, passion?! All of that is not love. It’s simply yearning, desire, passion, hormones, and so on. Mostly chemical states. Sometimes neurotic, depending on the degree of neglect.

I’ve just started reading it, but already I’m trying to apply some of the ideas and experiences that Vitale shares at the beginning of his book. By the way, he talks about a doctor who treated mentally ill criminals without even talking to them, but only by reading their medical histories.

I have been contemplating how to arrange things so that both love and pigeons, well, you know what I mean… I approached it from the perspective of the space of possibilities. As is known (I don't know about you, but for me – yes), we live in a space of possibilities – infinite ones – and we each choose from them according to our thoughts and feelings.

Sometimes you meet good, cheerful taxi drivers who, most importantly, are endowed with the wisdom of the ages. 😉 This is the conversation I had recently: – So, the Jews studied the women's problem. – Oh, what women's problem? – I squeal joyfully, hoping to find out what this "women's problem" is. – Well, it’s why women are so flighty, always looking to the side. Sound of jaw dropping to the floor – Who? Women? Are you sure you’re not confusing them with men? – No, it’s definitely women who are like that. I collect the remains of my jaw, putting it back in place. – And what did these Jews conclude? – Here’s what they figured out! – the taxi driver starts getting excited. – In order to keep a woman near you, you need to follow three conditions. First – you need to love her, worship her, and support her. – Are these all three? – No, that’s just one! – I think those three might be enough in many cases, though I’d be happy if just one of those three conditions were sometimes followed… – But there are two more! – the taxi driver says, upset. – Well!!! – The second is – you need to satisfy her. If you have what it takes, great; if not, figure it out. She needs to be satisfied. – Well, that’s clear… And that alone could often help the situation. Damn, if only men did something… Well? At least this... – And the third – you have to hit her! But only if you follow the first two conditions. Otherwise, what happens is – people only happily follow the third condition, and that's why women are all over the place... I deeply reflect on the meaning of life.

Even the most beloved person is just a part of my vast, boundless world. To say that they are the entire world is to greatly narrow this limitless world to just one person, no matter how beloved they are.

Of course, I had to consider it from various aspects, practice, study it in depth, and test it practically at the deepest level - in my life, in communication with people, and in the business process, I had to break through several stumbling blocks.

I believe that there are no "other halves" in romantic relationships. The only reason why masochistic people wander around the planet in proud solitude is their sacred belief that not just anyone will do for them, and that "such a person has not been born yet." The very definition of a woman or man as "someone’s dream" is a preconceived limitation of our possibilities in terms of the people we want to build relationships with.

About the contract... I think that in those realms where the decision about life’s conditions is made, the concept of a "contract" is inappropriate. But the idea that we make a choice — along with all the life circumstances — I also believe in that.

I'm reading this amazing book by Joe Vitale Zero Limits. Joe is that guy from the movie The Secret who talked about being broke in Dallas for 15 years. And then, bam - suddenly became rich. Well, lots of other cool stuff happened to him too. But this book isn't about how he got rich.