What does it mean to be a victim for me?
It doesn’t mean “getting a thrill from suffering, easily accepting it as reality.” It simply means “allowing myself to remain under the power of ‘fate’ and ‘circumstances,’ which are exactly what (or who) leads me down the road of life instead of me taking control.”
So, I don’t want to be a victim. I don’t want some vague circumstances or a fate that knows nothing about me raising and leading me through life.
Flowers.
It’s not enough to just plant them and water them. They need to be watered just enough, and at the right time. And yes, with the right stuff. Planted in the right soil. Fed with specific fertilizers. Sometimes sheltered from the wind, sometimes exposed to the light as much as possible. Sometimes sprayed, sometimes trimmed. Occasionally left alone—not passively, but deliberately. Not just “forgetting about them,” but lowering the temperature, watering them less often, or moving them off the balcony. Only if you follow a tailored care program for each flower will it grow, bloom, give offspring, bear fruit, or simply provide beauty and fragrance. It won’t wither, get sick, or fade away.
So, who will water us, mulch us, fertilize us, or cool us down? Who? I see only one answer. Ourselves. Each of us is a unique flower. And only we, and no one else (!!!), can know for sure how we need to care for this flower so that it grows lush and full of life, enjoying the sunshine every day and being happy.