“A Man’s Love”
A woman’s love is extraordinary. And women expect men to love them the way they love men. But that’s unrealistic. It doesn’t mean that men are incapable of love. It just means that a man’s love is different. But it’s still love. And if you manage to see that love, you may find that a man is actually giving his woman the maximum, and even a little more than that.
You could say a man loves a woman if he performs three simple actions: Acknowledges, Provides, and Protects.
For a man, acknowledging means that he openly declares that she is his woman. If he refers to her as a “friend,” “buddy,” or just by name, that means nothing. But if he says “my girlfriend” or “my beloved,” that’s Acknowledgment.
Providing for a man means that he starts “bringing home the bacon.” A man who loves a woman will provide for her living: paying for housing, food. He won’t spend money on expensive “toys” for himself and give the leftovers to his woman. Of course, there are women who prefer to be “financially independent,” but if a man is a real man, he will strive to provide everything his woman (or family) needs to live.
But every woman must know: she has the right to expect that a man will pay for her dinner, a movie ticket, entrance to a nightclub, or whatever else he should pay for in exchange for the time she spends with him.
If for some reason, a man is unable to provide financially for his woman, sometimes because he’s in a “non-money” phase of his life, but a real man who loves a woman will always strive to fill that gap. He may bring groceries, fix a broken car, or help repair something in the house…
This need of a loving man should not be forgotten. Even if a woman is wealthy, she should not deny a man the opportunity to provide for her. For a man, three things are important from a woman: Support, Loyalty, and Cookies. A real man needs to feel that he is needed. And the best way to show him that he is needed is to give him the opportunity to Provide.
A real man will always strive to Protect the woman he loves. He will knock down everything in his way until he makes sure his beloved is safe, and the offender is punished. For a real man, this is an imperative. If a woman is in danger — physically, emotionally, or in any other way — a real man will do everything to restore her peace by removing the cause of her distress and punishing the wrongdoers. My DNA screams at me that I must protect my beloved.
Here are the three main components of a man’s love: Acknowledge, Provide, and Protect. A man may not go shopping with his woman or hold her hand when she’s sick, but a real man who loves will make sure there is money for shopping, that prescriptions are filled, medicine is bought, and that an ex-boyfriend or rude insurance agent no longer bothers her.
“Three Things a Man Needs” – Support, Loyalty, and Cookies
Men are simple. It’s really not hard to make a man happy. It only takes three things: support, love, and “goodies.” That’s it. Yes, it’s that simple.
Support
We need to feel that we are the main ones. Even if we’re not. Every man, leaving home, is heading into battle. Every moment he’s ready to defend himself and his woman (family). He needs to know that his readiness and everything he does resonates in the heart of the woman. He just needs to hear, “Honey, if you only knew how much I appreciate everything you do for me and our family!” Just “Thank you, I really appreciate everything you do.”
Loyalty
Women need to understand that a man’s love is not like a woman’s. Women love with emotions, care, feelings, kindness. If a woman loves, she will be loyal. She won’t even think about being with someone else because, for her, no one else exists.
For men, love means loyalty, devotion. We need to see that you are committed to us, that you will stand by us no matter what. If we lose our job, even if we can’t bring in money, if we get sick, whatever happens. No matter what, you’ll still tell everyone, “This is my man, I’m loyal to him.” This loyalty is the same as love for us. For men, they are one and the same. Women need beauty in love. Men need loyalty. And if your loyalty is unshakable, your man will break through brick walls for you. And won’t go anywhere.
Cookies
No question. Men. Need. Sex. We love it. There’s nothing like it in this world. We want sex more than anything else. We just can’t live without it. Take everything, just leave us sex. We need to physically interact with the woman we love — the one who supports us and is loyal to us. Emotions, hugs, hand-holding — those are the womanly things. We’ll do them because you love it, and it’s important to you. But please, understand this important thing: men interact in love through sex. Period.
We’ll understand if you’re sick, pregnant, tired. But there’s a difference between a real reason to deny us sex and excuses. We’ll tolerate it if you’re “not in the mood” for a week, two, maybe a month. But it can’t go on forever. We need to constantly be in physical interaction with the woman we love. But we need to know that for you, this isn’t just a “checkmark” on your to-do list.
In conclusion: men need three things from women: support, loyalty, and sex. Without them, a man will not stay in the relationship.
“We Need to Talk”
These are the three scariest words for a man.
We weren’t born for talking. It’s not in our DNA to sit comfortably in a chair with a cup of tea and chat. Give a man a problem to solve, and he’ll happily take on the task. Ask us a question so that we can solve one of your problems, and we’ll provide a solution — and that’s the end of the conversation. (If your man has a solvable problem and he’s not rushing to solve it, that’s not the man you need.)
Your “complaints” are likely to be interpreted by a man as instructions for action. “These cabinet handles are so inconvenient” will not be seen as a suggestion to discuss design and functionality, but as an order to buy new handles. And the man who loves you will happily go buy those handles because he wants to make you happy. Or another example: if you emotionally reacted to him licking your breast, he will want to lick it again with the same intensity, hoping to get the same reaction.
Don’t expect your man to chit-chat with you about this or that. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to talk with you, doesn’t love you, doesn’t open up, or doesn’t show his feelings. He’s just made that way. If you ask him a specific question, he’ll answer. But don’t expect a three-page response to the question “Do you love me?” He’ll simply answer “Yes” or “Yes, very much.” We understand that sometimes we just need to listen to you talk without solving problems. Or that sometimes you just need to be hugged. We don’t quite understand it, but we’re capable of doing it for you. But for the most part, don’t expect us to keep a conversation going for more than two minutes. For longer discussions, go to your girlfriends.
How much easier would a man’s life be if conversations didn’t start with “We need to talk”? When a man hears that, his defense mechanism kicks in, and he starts thinking about where he messed up, when, and how to fix it. It would be much better if, when you need to vent, you simply said, “Honey, you know, everything’s okay, but I just need to talk.” That’s a good start. We’ll relax, turn off the “fixer” mode, and listen to you calmly.
“Why a Man Does What He Does”
He wants to sleep with you.
A very simple way to determine if a man who’s hitting on you really likes you or just wants to sleep with you is to tell him you have five kids. If he just wants sex, he’ll disappear. This is a real story, and a definite conclusion can be drawn from it.
When a man makes moves toward a woman, he always wants something. Always. And usually, he’s asking two questions: will you sleep with him, and what will it cost him to get you into bed?
If he asks “How’s it going, what are you up to?” he doesn’t really care how you’re doing or what you’re up to. He wants to sleep with you and is trying to figure out what it’ll take, how much he’ll have to “invest” to achieve that. By “investments,” I mean YOUR REQUIREMENTS. He wants to know if your “price” is affordable or too high. If you don’t set any requirements, meaning no investment is needed, he’s in the game. He knows he can get you to bed with minimal effort. But if you tell him your requirements in advance — that you need his time, respect, attention — he’ll know you’re “expensive,” and he’ll have to work to get the prize. For some, that will be too expensive, and they won’t stick around long. Others will find the “price” you set for yourself affordable.
For women, this is very useful to know, because now you understand that when a man approaches you, you immediately put everything in its place by setting your requirements and finding out how much he’s willing to pay. If you don’t set any requirements, you’ll play by HIS rules.
“Sport Fishing or Catching a Trophy?”
Men like trophies. It’s an integral part of our nature.
When a man is looking for a woman, he’s often playing sport fishing. At first, it’s all about the thrill of the chase. It’s a question of whether he’ll catch the woman he’s interested in, and if he does, he’ll want to show her off. Then, when he gets the girl, he puts her in a cage, and the chase continues.
But when he’s looking for a wife, it’s a completely different game. If he’s looking for a trophy, he’ll set a high price for her. So, if you know the right balance, keep your requirements strong. If your man respects you and wants to win you, he will respect your standards. And in the end, the game will turn into something greater, something meaningful.