It’s simple. When we know there’s no need to return, we shouldn’t. Under no circumstances. It’s forbidden. Because we know that even if we just talk, even if it’s just a text message, we’ll again fall into the illusion that this person can give us something they cannot. And they won’t. We’ve already understood that. That’s exactly why we left, isn’t it? Isn’t it because we knew that this path leads to a dead end? And there’s no way out of a dead end – only leaving the relationship. Completely. Without return.
Because returning is returning to a dead end. Even if what’s in the dead end is so alluring that we have to forcefully redirect our attention, any temporary return, even a return for just a minute, just a second, just to take a look – all of this is a return to a dead end with sticky walls that are easy to get stuck to. It’s easy to get stuck if the dead end beckons. And the only way to get rid of this obsession is a hundred percent, deep, cold IGNORE.
We left once because we knew this path would lead nowhere. That we deserve better. That just being on this path was humiliating for us. And if the scent of illusory hopes comes again from there, we can confidently hold our nose and go in the opposite direction. That’s it.