Love is not a feeling. It’s not something we experience as “beautiful yearning” or whatever else—hormonal surges? Desire, passion?! All of that is not love. It’s simply yearning, desire, passion, hormones, and so on. Mostly chemical states. Sometimes neurotic, depending on the degree of neglect.
Love is space. The seventh dimension—something we create ourselves. Like universes, expansions, pockets of the cosmos that we make real. In a very simplistic description, it’s the “permission to be”—simply to be, without conditions. This is why the concept of “unconditional love” exists—it’s when there’s an unconditional space for existence.
As soon as even one condition enters this space, such as “the same, but with mother-of-pearl buttons,” that’s it, the space collapses into zero, and love is gone.
What’s surprising is that this space doesn’t exist anywhere outside of us. One can’t enter it and just be. You can be in someone else’s space of love, but it doesn’t bring the same joy as when we create our own space. Being in a space created for us by someone else may feel comfortable and pleasant, but it will never give the true sense of even global fulfillment (which is all about the illusion of incompleteness)—there’s simply no concept of incompleteness by definition. In this space, created by us, with us as the source, there is no concept of completeness or incompleteness as a class. It’s absurd and represents an empty sound.
This happens because when we are the source of the space of Love, the first person to enter this space is ourselves. Until this space completely fills us, we cannot give love. It’s basic physics.
Therefore, a person for whom concepts of completeness/incompleteness/uncertainty and other self-deceptions still apply is incapable of love. Of course, they’re capable of yearning, hormonal reactions, and neuroses, but this—this pure, transparent state of being from everything that exists, including all people (and even “the aunt with the halo of curlers”), our loved ones, close and distant—it’s only available to those who have already created their space of love and become it.
From this understanding of love, everything becomes very simple and clear.