Love

The topic of love is especially relevant to me right now. When I received her letter, suddenly a response pierced my mind that brought tears to my eyes. The past few months (and, in fact, many years!) of my struggle with the concept of love had exhausted me. I kept wanting to sit down and hear the voice of my own wisdom. To listen. To receive an answer. And suddenly, my friend’s letter unexpectedly triggered in my mind a clear and sincere response – the very one I had been waiting for. I sat down and wrote this answer. For her. For me. And for everyone.

Love…

Everything I’m going to tell you, you already know. I’m only going to remind you. I’m reminding you because when we are in the state of “What if no one loves me?” we forget everything. At that moment, we bang our heads against a wall, looking at it so closely – and all we see is that wall. There’s no way out. There’s only the wall with the words written on it: “There is no love, and maybe there will never be.”

But hidden in that inscription is the key. Not in the whole inscription, but in its first part. You see, we all need to understand that “There is no love.” It’s not anywhere where we search for it. And most often, we search for it in other people, somewhere out there, somewhere in the future. Someone will come and give it to us. A magician will suddenly appear in a blue helicopter and give us love for free.

You understand yourself that this is never going to happen. Because love is not like five hundred ice creams. It’s not even all the ice cream in the world put together.

We constantly forget that love is not a substance that gets passed from hand to hand. It’s not something that can be more or less. It’s not something that either is or isn’t. Love is not an emotion, not gifts, not a state of mind. And it’s not even a state of soul. All these states are so fickle, they constantly change. And that’s the proof that love is no state at all. Because it never changes. It is. It is in every true moment. It’s everywhere. It’s like air. Forgive me for the grandiosity – but it’s the air of planet Earth.

And everything related to love – closeness, sex, friendship, all other relationships with people and more – it all, it seems to me, is based on how much of that element we have in us.

I imagine that Love is like the oxygen we breathe. It’s everywhere. When we breathe in, we let it into our lungs. I believe that love works exactly the same way. But it’s still not a chemical substance. It can’t enter us on its own.

We need to take a breath.

To open up. Probably, the very first step we can take is to realize that we stopped breathing. We stopped breathing Love.

I am convinced that love is a natural, non-chemical element that our beings, like our bodies with oxygen, should be filled with. If the longing for love starts, well, that’s it – we’ve stopped breathing. And all that’s needed is to open our mouths and take a breath. How? It seems to me that everyone finds their own ways for this.

There are a few ways we both know, though we constantly forget them. And thank you for this: for pushing me to remember them for myself. Maybe I’ll forget something. I’m sure you can fill in the gaps.

So, we’ve realized that we “forgot how to breathe.” What next?

Start giving to others.

Remember, to receive something, you need to give something. The law of conservation of energy? The law of movement, the law of pressure. When something leaves us, something new will inevitably appear. Empty spaces with negative pressure always fill up. If we broadcast sadness and sorrow, that’s what we’ll fill ourselves with. Remember that love is there, and it’s always available. Take a breath – and breathe it out. Where? Wherever we want. We can breathe it out or simply give it to anyone. Or even just send it to some point on Earth. Klaus Joel writes about this very well in his book “The Messenger.” It can be summed up like this: the awareness of love, the awareness of the presence of love in you, consciously sending love to everything and anyone – to people, to events, to things.

In the process, not only do you experience the incredible shift of continuously giving away the most precious thing on Earth, but you also unexpectedly fill yourself with so much love that you walk around glowing with it for a long time. This is the simplest way to start when you forget how to breathe. And the fastest-working one. But when you do this, don’t keep in mind the “leftover” reason for doing it. Give it all without holding back. Let it fly. Do you know how we’ll celebrate the meeting?

Start giving to yourself.

Someone misunderstood when they said that you shouldn’t love yourself. Or that you should love yourself last. It’s all the opposite. You need to love yourself first and foremost. But again, what do we mean by love here? We’ve gotten confused with definitions, often calling other things love. But we both understand that we’re talking about that love that is like air. So, you need to send love to yourself first.

How? Surprisingly, the process of giving love to yourself is mostly about non-doing. Not putting yourself down in your own eyes, not doubting yourself, not rejecting yourself, not allowing thoughts like “I’m not worthy,” “No one will love me,” “Who needs me,” “I’m incomplete,” “I’m not…,” and so on. Not “I’m the best and most deserving, amazing person.” Maybe some people like that, but I don’t want to swing the pendulum too far in that direction. Because once it swings there, it’s bound to swing back. For me, simplicity is closer, the middle, the absence of judgment. Because who am I? I am just another manifestation of the Universe that enjoys being human.

Remember that I am just a small form of the infinite whole – all that is, including Love…

I am a part of that larger whole, that life. We are all manifestations of this divine phenomenon called Life. Divine mind. Divine heart. And here I am. I am just a small hologram of this whole. And I am the whole. A small whole of the big whole. I am neither better nor worse. I simply am. And as my divine essence, my whole, I am also part of and indeed Love. And here, there’s nothing more to say because everything has already been said.

As soon as you realize (remember) that you are part of everything, you inevitably reconnect with the source. The absence of love is felt when we feel alone, “disconnected,” by ourselves. But that’s not true. We are not by ourselves. We are images of the Universal mind. And the only thing that “disconnects” us from the sense of being part of the whole Universe is our own thoughts that tell us we are “alone.” And all of this is because…

As we decide – so it will be.

This is the unique feature of both you and everyone else. It will be for us as we’ve decided based on what we believe. If we believe there will be peace in the world, that’s what will happen. Even if for everyone else there’s war and destruction, for us, the world will turn into peace.

This is why we say that every person is a universe. These aren’t just big, beautiful words. This is great wisdom. Every person is a universe because each of us has a unique set of beliefs, expectations, and convictions and the decisions based on them. And with them, we create our own unique universes. One person believes “everything is Love,” and that’s how it is for them. Another believes “people are betrayers,” and no matter how hard they try, as long as they believe that and expect it, people won’t fail to provide evidence. A third person believes “everything is a lie.” And needless to say, that’s exactly how it will be. Each person lives in their own, uniquely created reality. Sometimes, people with similar beliefs unite in groups, and then they all have war. Or peace and love.

It seems to me that beliefs and expectations act like magnets, drawing us together… And they certainly pull events and people into our lives that vividly illustrate everything that’s happening in our minds. And all of this is called – individuality… Individuality – a universe – a system of expectations.

And only one group of people lives in a world that’s amazingly common to all these non-individuals. Non-individuals because they’ve managed to wipe the individuality clean – all their beliefs and expectations – from their own minds. And not even wipe them away. Probably, concepts like expectations and beliefs are hard to erase from the mind; after all, they weren’t formed for no reason – behind them stands a colossal thing called “life experience.” Life experience with linked emotions from our experiences, which helped form a specific belief system (expectations), prevents us from starting to believe in something new when we want to change our lives…

But all we need to do is realize that these expectations exist. And they pull us backward and downward. They prevent us from seeing the world with the pure eyes of a child and realizing that…

The world is beautiful, neutral, and everything in it is love and what we create ourselves.

Because when we consciously let go of our beliefs or fears – what’s the difference? They’re all, in essence, expectations – that we can’t do something, we’re unworthy, we’re incapable, we won’t succeed, we won’t surpass someone, and so on – everything becomes simple. We just go and do what our heart asks, what our soul calls us to do.

In this world, we no longer feel sad because no one loves us – because there’s no more loneliness. We are all together. In this world, we want only one thing – to give everything we can give. And nothing holds us back from giving anymore – not our silly thoughts that no one needs it, no one will understand, or appreciate it.

We give not because we want something in return, but because we want to give.

And here we’ve come back to the very beginning….

Start giving to others. Give to yourself – out of Love. Stop thinking that you’re alone – come back to us, feel that you’re together again – with all of us. Remember that you are the creator. You are the magician of your life and partly of ours. Because we’re looking at you. You inspire us. You burn and light us. And so does everyone. And if everyone else is a reflection of the Universe, let me see the Universe in your reflection.